In The Group...Yet Not

Well, it is a few months later. I have been in the Mom's Morning Out group since...Christmas-ish, I guess?

In some ways, yes, I am finding it easier to talk to the other ladies, and when we do get together, it is still fun, but in some ways, I realize that my first thought when invited really was true...I don't exactly fit in.

You see, although the majority of them are somewhere around my age, I am finding that I am mostly the only one with older kids. Everyone else has kids in the 1-6 year old range, mostly in the lower end of that. Mine are in the basically 8-12 year range.

Which means they are in a certain stage of things, with certain activities and such that my kids just don't go for anymore. Also, because my kids are older, and everyone else is in the same stage as the others, they get together a lot more often, a lot more easily.
Their kids all get invited to each others' birthdays, playdates, they have lunches together, go to the park together, talk to each other more often because they have their kids in their specific ages in common.

I do try, really I do. But my kids have THEIR activities and THEIR friends and such, and, well, it is hard to get that adult friend time when they are still in the stage of kids needing diapers and naps and in most cases a trip to Timmy's would probably be the stuff of nightmares for them, having to bring little people who need playplaces instead.

I see them all posting about their parties and playdates and posting pictures and thanking each other for great lunches and afternoons and such together, and I must admit, I'm a bit jealous, a bit left out. It's too bad.

I really have to learn how to be the friend THEY need, especially since, in all likelihood, I will be back to work somewhere in the fall and will likely have to drop out of MMO.

I guess I still have too much personal baggage to make good friends yet. Hopefully , with time, I can get over that and be someone they want to spend time with.

Or else my friend in Bolton, my friend in Oshawa, my friend in the Ottawa area, and my friend in the Vancouver area will miraculously all move here. Sure. It could happen.